Mystery Gift Box #032 | Authentic Needs Pyramid and 5 Styles of Self-Care

Hey friends,

How to Meet Your Self.

The Workbook for Self-Discovery. By Dr. Nicole LePera. That’s what I am currently reading and working through the exercises 🤯 I learned that the transformation process has two steps:

1. See Yourself

2. Empower Your Self

🧠 The 5 styles of self-care

When we were children, our parents / caretakers care for us in different ways in order to meet our physical and emotional needs. Depending on the methods that they used, we would internalise certain beliefs when we were children and carry those beliefs (unconsciously) into our adulthood, forming certain self-care habits. Here are the common styles of self-care modelled within families:

1. Neglectful or Absent

   1. Physical needs largely unmeet

   2. Little awareness or prioritisation of eating well, exercising, sleep hygiene, consistency, or boundaries — physical self-neglect

2. Emotionally Withdrawn or Overwhelmed

   1. Physical and material needs consistently met but emotional needs are mostly ignored

   2. Heavy emphasis on appearance, achievement, or survival, resulting in approval-seeking behaviours

3. Over-involved or Helicopter Parenting

   1. Hypervigilance around physical needs and/or appearance

   2. Fear-based overinvolvement or control, resulting in reliance on external guidance or validation

4. Crisis Care

   1. Physical needs met most consistently when there’s a health crisis

   2. Closeness and connection felt through sickness or crisis, resulting in trying to get emotional needs met through physical care

5. Violating or Abusive

   1. Physical need for safety is compromised — where there are active physical, verbal, or sexual abuse

   2. Emphasis on survival only with overall neglect of emotional or spiritual needs

⛰ 4-4-4 Exploration Project

January 2023: Writing and Storytelling (Subject) ✅

February 2023: KURIOS – Cabinet of Curiosities (Cirque Du Soleil — Experience) ✅

March 2023: 28 Days of Cold Exposure (Subject and Experience) ✅

April 2023: Complete Growth / Product Marketing Course (Subject) 🟧

📚 This week, I finished reading…

Reading and working through How To Meet Your Self workbook by Dr. Nicole LePera.

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With love,

Ryan O. 🎮

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